Holiday Message.

Why,after so many holiday celebrations, do we still have unrealistically high expectations:That all be merrier and brighter and more peaceful?
To the degree that we have expectations, I believe we are to the same degree let down, and dissappointed. The solution may be to set a modicum of expectations, and place more of one's attention on the present moment. Tolle tells us the only truth is now. I am not that extreme in my philosopy. Christmas and my birthday and my vacation date are real, tangible and true, even though they are not NOW!
I may be the only one I know that does not have any plans for Christmas or New Year's Eve, and I am peaceful and calm about this fact. I am not Catholic, so Christmas is a time that I happily listen to the holiday music, and view the lovely Christmas decorations. I think to myself, with joy that I don't have to buy gifts, wrap gifts, and spend an entire day with in-laws that I must pretend to love. Really I love all people. I just choose to be with a select few.
The Messiah and Christmas carols have given me a sense of soft wonder and beauty and connection to all. I really do love this season. But not for the reason most people do. I love this time of year, as all the woodland animals and trees have settled in for a long winter. I watch my cats sleeping and eating more. I follow suit. It is OK to consume more calories. A brisk walk in nature in January burns more calories than it does in June. I sleep ridiculously more hours, absorb myself with more dream entries. More self-analysis.

This time of year gives me a greater opportunity to tune inward, to reflect and grow in quiet ways. Each morning and each night when I meditate I think of ways I can be kinder, a better friend, more compassionate, and listen better. I also focus on all the things I am grateful for. Loving parents, friends, abundant good health, my creative abilities to teach, write, play piano, and see the very best in everyone.

So when people question my choices at this time of year, wondering if I am depressed or not myself, I reply, "I am doing the very best, and never have I been happier".
"It is not excitement I seek, just simple peace and simple joys".
May all who read this know just that. It is not what is going on in the outside that defines a person's happiness. It is where they are in the INSIDE. Ask anyone you meet. You may be pleasantly surprised. They are not doing it your way;they may be DOING VERY LITTLE, yet they are happy. Be happy for them, and be on your way.
We are not on this earth to change anyone, or to challenge anyone's choices.
We are here for each other: to be gentle, soft, and accepting. To love people for WHO THEY ARE, not for what you think they should be. Then, harmony can flourish.

May peace harmony and joy be with you. May the froth on your hot mulled cider, and SILENT NIGHT carry you through in the NEW YEAR.

With Love,
Kathryn